Your hushand or wife has been unfaithful to you and had an affair. You feel that the relationship is in taters and may well be over and you are thinking that it was al down to you.
Because of what happened you are now seeing things in a differant light
You are in this situatio now because of the situation you find yourself in, an unworthy and somewhat broken person.
Cheating:Is it the end of the dream?
When you look back on the day you got married you were full of positive thoughts for the future and what it held in store for you.
And then something happened where "Life" took over, you know, the work, the family ,the chores and discovering that there was always something to be done.
What happened next. You got cheated on.
When you found out about the affair some of these thoughts may have entered your mind.
Surely i must have cleaned and cooked and took care of our children.Surely.
"I gave my very being to this marriage and look at me now"
" It would appear that I am not at all worthy of my spouses devotion if they could do that".
All of a sudden it is all cast into negativity. Lifestyle, self-worth, in fact everything is called into question even who are you. It seems that this situation is something that you can never come back from due the one ghastly decision that your spouse took.
It is a fact that all plus thoughts suddenly dissapear when an affair hits you. All there is left is minus thoughts and feelings.Trying to feel good about anything, even ones self is almost impossible and all because of that affair.
Your self-worth has suffered a devastating hammer blow thats for sure. Everything is in questionable, You, the marriage, and even the day when you first met each other. Your mind searches through everything and every mistake that you may have made and you come to the conclusion that this could well be the end of this marriage.
Did you deserve anything good? did you deserve being happy? did you deserve a good marriage? these are the doubts that are flooding into your mind. Is that divorce so far away now?
Just slow down there.The quickest way to lose ones self-confidence is negativity. You will begin to see yourself as worthless and unworthy but you must not,never ever think that way.When those thoughts come flooding in you ave to think the opposite and tell yourself you are worthy again and again.
We have extremely powerful minds .Just remember that it is only you that has the control over your thoughts and images and your memory. Continually say to yourself that it is only you who is in control and no one else.
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